Gratitude:

Become Aware of Good Parts of Your Life

We all have our ups and downs from time to time. Everyday, we face brand new challenges while sometimes trying to figure out how to solve the past ones but we can’t deny that happy moments always exist in between. Of course, some days can be a lot better than the previous ones, or some might be way worse. But when you look back, you can always find something that would make you say “I’m so thankful for this.” If you can’t, the solution is easy. You just learn to change your perspective a little bit. I believe the first step on this road is to know why you need gratitude in your life. 

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Harvard Health explains how thankfulness can change our lives pretty simply. As we name what we are grateful for we become aware that there’s a light in every darkness that is worth acknowledgement. We see that our happiness does not always depend on us, and it helps us to realise how we are connected to our environment. Research on gratitude demonstrated that people who list what they are grateful for tend to be happier in the long-run compared to people who list the things that irritate them. Another study pointed out that writing down a letter for ourselves where we explain what they are thankful for is likely to increase our happiness score. Thus, the link between gratitude and happiness is undeniably real and should be considered while we’re aiming to keep our mood up. 

Relationships between one and another also benefit from gratitude practises. A different study where couples were the subjects shows that couples who spare time to express what they are grateful for in the relationship and in the other person tend to feel more positive towards each other. Another important finding from the same study was that grateful couples were better at expressing their concerns and problems in a healthy way. 

Another important aspect in life that gratitude can affect is our work environment. To basically explain this link, grateful managers are actually motivators of the whole office. Saying “Thank you.” to the employees influence their work motivation significantly. A relevant research demonstrated this effect as using two different groups who work for a fundraising campaign. Only one group receives a motivational pep talk from their manager about how thankful they are for their efforts. The motivated group should have really been impressed by these words as they collected %50 more money than the other group. 


Now, you know how literally every part of our lives can reshape with gratitude. With the positivity it spreads around, thankfulness really does change our perspectives and encourage us to do and be better. But there’s one more thing to learn about gratitude, learn how to practise it. Here are my favourite methods to remind myself of how great my life can be: 


  • Use the three-questions method:

Consider your relationships with three questions. Ask yourself what that particular person gave you, what you gave to them and think about the difficulties you may have caused to them. By doing this exercise you will realise how you can improve your communication skills and be able to observe your relationships as evaluating its healthiness. 


  • Consider your language usage:

    Saying “thank you” is not only good for the other person but it is good for you to become aware of the moments you appreciate. So, it is actually beneficial for you to be thankful. Try to integrate it into your daily life, even to the smallest situations. 

  • Practise mindfulness:

    It’s important to be aware of what is happening around you as not focusing on the past or future. Just try to be in the moment and understand every aspect of it. This way you will realise that there are many more things to be grateful about around you as well as you will not bother with anything else that is not actively present at that moment. Meditation and breathing exercises are great ways to become mindful. In Moodcare, we have different kinds of exercises you can practise yourself by sparing 10 minutes each day; your level of expertise does not matter, there’s a suitable activity for everyone! 

Start gratitude journaling:

This would be my favourite advice as I really believe that this could change your perspective about life in many ways. Writing down everyday about what you were grateful for today will help you remember the good parts of your life even in the worst case scenarios.


An easy way to try it is provided by Moodcare to you! The gratitude journaling feature we have allows you to discuss and record what you are grateful for with the AI therapy chatbot Moody. Moody will lead you through this process and help you to realise that there’s something wonderful in each day. 


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