Empathy: The key for a healthy community
Empathy is one of the greatest gifts given to humankind. Our ability of reasoning allows us to understand how others could feel in particular situations and put ourselves in their perspective before we make a judgement. This might seem like a very easy and nonsignificant process but if you think about it broadly you would understand how empathy has a huge impact on the development of today’s society. Being one of the key elements for a healthy relationship, empathy lets us connect with others on a deeper level. Empathy is highly connected to our emotional state as the most important part of it is to comprehend others’ feelings. That’s why Dr. Judith Orloff names empaths as “emotional sponges' '; because they can absorb others’ emotions just like it’s theirs.
To have a fulfilling social life it’s important to improve the empathetic skills you have. Even if you see yourself as a real empath, it would be useful to use techniques that could help you practise empathetic relationships and to boost your abilities to relate to other people. Here are some advices from New York Times you can make use of:
“Too much good can be bad”
“Positive vibes only” can be harmful, that’s right! Think about it, when we’re going through tough times, we want to share our feelings with someone and be able to gain unconditional support.
During times of intense personal distress, rejecting negative feelings and engraining positive ones can be particularly irritating. When people are dealing with difficult circumstances such as financial difficulties, health issues, or death, being advised to “focus on the good” might sound harsh.
In a study by Ford et. al. (2018), more than 1,300 adults were studied to see if there was a link between emotional acceptance and psychological wellbeing. They discovered that people who avoid facing difficult emotions on a regular basis felt worse. This indeed suggests that accepting negative feelings instead of ignoring or rejecting them may be better for a person’s mental wellbeing in the future.
Toxic positivity can be damaging to both motivation and self-esteem. It depends on magical thinking to reach goals rather than being motivated to put in some effort. It emphasizes the belief that adopting a positive attitude will be sufficient to change things however, it only leads to suppression of feelings. It rejects the fact that the suppressed feelings can accumulate over time damaging mental health.
As I am finalizing this article, I want to point out the significance of empathy one more time. As living in a social world, it’s so important to make sure we understand each other. Otherwise even though we’re surrounded by hundreds of people it would not mean anything for us. Empathy has a huge power on our humanistic part and it’s so important not to hold onto it. So, for your well-being, for the relationships you build and for the community you live in, start to practise empathy in different ways and watch the change that will take place.
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Ceren Bayrakçı
Senior Psychology Student
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